Marriage Therapy

Marriage Therapy

Is your relationship or marriage feeling “stuck”?

• Do you and your partner feel as though you’re together, but just not connecting? 

• Does communication in your relationship feel like you talk at or through each other? 

• Does it feel like something in your relationship is broken or missing?

• Is the passion and intensity you once felt with your partner missing or feeling muted?

Common barriers to connection in relationships include defensiveness, blaming, criticism, and contempt. Factors like these can lead to even harder relational difficulties, like emotional avoidance, lying, and cheating, each of which can create serious harm to your relationship. 

Trust and commitment

If zero is none at all, and ten is the most possible, where would you rate the trust in your relationship on a scale from zero to ten? How about commitment? Like pillars supporting a roof, trust and commitment are essential to the structural integrity of any relationship, especially a romantic one. Embedded in the intersection of cultural differences and alignment lies an opportunity to discover where trust and commitment in you and your partner begins and ends. Together, we can uncover the barriers to your relationship’s access to fully experience trust and commitment through each other.

Common Concerns About Therapy 

Will it make things worse?

Maybe—but only temporarily. Common feedback from partners in the beginning of couples therapy is that it can kick up difficult feelings. This is actually a good thing. To experience change, changes must be made which can feel uncomfortable for partners. To disrupt patterns of disconnection that led to relationship stress over weeks, months, years, or even decades requires a shift in your relationship’s homeostasis. Shifting to grow starts with trust and commitment. 

What if our problems are too deeply ingrained to change?

It’s understandable to feel that these patterns are a core part of your relationship, especially if they’ve been in place for many years. But 

connection wounds can heal with the right support. Therapy allows you 

to understand where these patterns come from and how to build more 

secure, healthy connections moving forward.

Couples therapy can help 

Research shows that romantic relationships can benefit from couple therapy when partners begin as close to the onset of relationship stress as possible. Some issues—what therapists call “perpetual problems”—need to be identified in therapy. Then we can work on tools to manage how you respond to the stresses these problems produce. Over and over, we’ve seen this work majorly influencing a positive direction in relationships.